You Determine Your Wake Up Call.

I was thinking yesterday about how much of a wake up call divorce really is.  Wake up calls come in tiny packages, big packages, packages that take up a room.  From losing a parent to losing a job, they force us to be present here, now and to look at our lives.  What of that which we have been doing do we want to continue to do.  Are our friends really our friends?  How much of our life was honest?  Where were we needy?  What areas of our life did we fail to look at because we just did not think we were strong enough?

















Wake up calls are really godsends.  Marianne Williamson calls relationships “laboratories of the Holy Spirit.”   And, an ending to a relationship is no different.  They are godsends because they force us to keep going.  They push us onto higher ground, making us stronger and more alive.  No more going through the motions and struggling to make a relationship work.  Now, you have the opportunity to be loved by yourself more than ever before.  What happens when you don’t feel you can handle the wake up call though?  It truly is a process whereby you either choose ego or spirit.  The ego is going to speak the loudest because you have been hurt.  The ego believes it is there to serve you, to protect you.  Spirit is there to serve the highest good, god, the Universe.  And, so we must turn to spirit wherever we can to help spirit prevail over ego.

Here are five things you can do to move forward :

  1. Find an activity that gets you moving and do it every week — often, consistently.  I recommend yoga, rock climbing, hiking alone, tai chi.  Something that can quiet the ego which moving your body.  You have red blood cells pumping healing oxygen to your body and quieting your mind.
  2. Talk to spiritual people.  Those people you strive to be like.  The ones who don’t judge and don’t want to be part of any drama.  Let them help you ground yourself, let go and forgive.
  3. Develop a meditation practice or practice of prayer.  Bless the day every morning and every night before bed.
  4. Write down 5 things you are grateful for every single day.
  5. Whenever an unloving thought arises about your spouse or partner, imagine him or her as a child.  When children are young we do not judge their actions so harshly because we see they are growing.  Human beings are always growing — both children and adults — and as both we stumble and fall.

I have a gift for you today.  It is a visualization/meditation.  See if it speaks to you, helps you through something.  Email me about your experiences this week.

Lots of love to everyone today and through this week.  Please share your insights and stories with me.  Let me know how I can support you further along your journey.  I am holding office hours this coming Thursday from 2-3 p.m. Call me about anything on your mind.

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