Happy New Year!

Let’s be grateful for what 2012 brought to us — even the difficult times are there to bring us to new places, new beginnings.

I truly believe in the goodness of this new year. The universe is always rearranging itself for our best interest. And, I am only ever expecting positive results, no matter what is in front of me. (thanks to Fabienne Fredrickson, this has definitely become one of my new mantras!).

Last week, I was taking a hot bath with one of my new Lush bath bombs (Christmas present from Frank). A memory came to me about how often I saw falling stars as a child and teenager living in Alabama. I thought about how much I wish I could see stars more here in the city. I want to see more stars…… (but that’s another subject that takes us to how much I need the country and Colorado mountains in my life :) I was thinking about one memory in particular. I was spending the night with my best friend, Amanda, I must have been 14 or so. And, she was having a spend the night party or something because there were quite a few girls around. We were walking down the dirt road she lived on and looking up at the sky and all the stars. And, we saw a falling star and I wished on it — like always, the same wish — I wish that I will forever be happy. I want to be happy. Others were wishing for things, for wealth, for particular boyfriends. I wished to be happy.

There is probably much you can take from this story. At the time, I truthfully did not think of myself as happy. I was having a rough time of it. I grew up in an ultra conservative environment in Alabama — and adolescence and my pushing the social mores — proved to be a really difficult time for me. So, I became a dreamer. I dreamed of leaving Alabama (which I later did), I dreamed and dreamed and dreamed and most of all I dreamed of one day being happy.

So, my wish on the star that night and those many falling stars I saw growing up in Alabama made me today think of HAPPINESS and our new year.

Is happiness on your list? Do you wish for it, have you ever?

The lesson I have learned over many years of healing, exploring my own depths as a human being and reading book after book about it is — you can wish to be happy all you want, but it is in choosing to be happy that makes it so. Happy conditions do not make us happy, being happy causes happy conditions. So, no more wishing on stars to be happy. I choose it period. No more questions. Happiness is not out there……… Happiness is right here and it has been here all along. We all have the same capacity, the same ability, the same happiness opportunity. We just have to notice it and choose it. That simple.

Being just is. It takes no time at all.

So, it’s your choice — as it always is. You can either try to get happiness, try to do things to make you happy, or you can right now, this instant decide to be happy. Which do you choose this 2013?

How are you this January 2013? Where are you in the divorce process and how does this MML help you today? Please write to me.

With love and light,

P.S. Let’s keep this work going. I am getting ready to open up a new North Star Sessions group. Keep watching for the details! February 2013 — North Star Sessions, a new way to divorce different.

P.S.S. If you are struggling to find a way through this process and you live in Washington, DC or Maryland, call me to discuss my family mediation services. (202) 587-2772 .

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