Fill up. Say no.

Good morning!

Welcome this morning’s light with all your love and strength.  

We have been busy planning our Spring break and the month of April.  April is possibly my favorite month of the year — beautiful weather, sunny days, birds chirping, blossoms everywhere, tulips popping out of the ground, my birthday.  We have found ourselves this April, though, really busy with travel and business plans.  All really good, but busy.  What I like to do most in the Spring is sit out in the backyard and just listen to all the sounds of nature.  It is such a quieting safety that comes with those sounds, for me.  So, in any negotiation of to dos, I have had to stay very present with the fact that my soul needs this quiet nature time.  No one else has to completely understand it, its just something I need for me.  

Our soul’s longing calls forth truth.   

I want to know if you can see beauty,
even when it’s not pretty,
every day,
and if you can source your own life
from its presence. 
  — Oriah 

My 6 1/2 year old daughter, Kate, drew this recently.  I keep it on my computer screen now.  And, I think it pretty well sums it all up : 

Drawing by my daughter, Kate.  This pretty well sums it all up for me.

To be able to have the time to do more of the activities we need for ourselves, that our soul needs, we have to say “no” more often.  This is no a small task is it?   Saying yes to those moments our soul is craving and asking for at the expense of saying no to draining tasks is absolutely necessary.  It is only in filling up ourselves that we are able to function in the world.  Yes, we are all busy, but unless we fill up our own cups, the well is dry and everyone suffers.
Journal Prompts

  • What are some of the places in your life that you can say, “I no longer …..”  In other words, what activities or beliefs can you say no to?  Write them down.  Think about them energetically and write down those things that you have to do each day that drains your energy, your soul.  Make a NO list. This does not mean that they won’t get done necessarily, but it may mean that you need to give the task to someone else.  Does doing your taxes drain you?  Give them to your accountant or hire a virtual assistant to go through your expenses and put them in a spreadsheet for you.
  • Now, what are some things that light you up?  What lights up your soul, soothes your spirit, makes you come alive?  Make a list — just write for 3 minutes.  Go!  Let them flow.  If you are having trouble, it is probably because you haven’t felt that beauty, that happiness in a long time.  Think back in time, what has made you feel complete?  Now, with your list, let’s go to the action step.

Action Steps

Take action now.  

  • Take 3 things from your no list and quit doing them now.  Make a committment.
  • Take 3 things from your “what lights me up” list and schedule to do them in your calendar.

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Honoring your divine light,  

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