How to make the switch to change how you feel right now.


This morning it is pouring rain outside.  I love the rain.  I absolutely love it.

I grew up with Alabama storms so the ones here in DC always pale in comparison to what I experienced growing up.  Any hard rain or thunder makes me feel alive.  It is relaxing to wake to the sounds, and all of the trees, flowers, plants outside are so gratefully getting replenished.

Because of the rain, Kate may not have the annual Field Day at her school and we will have to use umbrellas and rain gear to keep from getting wet and may get wet.  Oh, and Emily our dog will definitely get wet and probably muddy which makes our floors dirty and adds another to do to my list.

Everything that happens has consequences, effects.  And, those consequences are both good and bad, never just one or the other.

It may be difficult to see right now, but there are always positive effects to an action.

What is something that you are having a hard time with right now or something “bad” that has happened to you this week?  Think about it and write it down.

Now under where you have written what happened to you, answer these three questions :

  1. What have I learned about myself from what happened?
  2. What have I learned about others involved from what happened?
  3. What is my gift from what has happened?

We are all made up of our experiences, and the universe or god takes us through many a dark alley to help us to see better.  

It is in noticing, it is in recognizing the lesson where the miracle blossoms.  When we get trapped in the negative consequences, the negative chatter or story of what is, we are just that, trapped.

It is sometimes extremely difficult to break free from the cycle of feeling bad and sorry for ourselves.  But, when we are able to switch the chatter and notice how we are different because of what happened, what we are now able to see because of it, life turns toward the light.

Please leave a comment below telling me how you have made the switch recently.  What happened and how did you break the negative story?

This week’s interview is with Stacey Martino of http://loveandpassioncoach.com.  We talk about how to repair the relationship, even if the marriage isn’t going to last, so you can get to a place of peace, compassion and clarity to create the love affair of your dreams with your current spouse or a new future love and life partner.

Stacey Martino is the love and passion expert.  Stacey and her husband Paul are the founders of Love and Passion Coach dot com, where couples create an unshakable love and unleashed passion that lasts a lifetime! Stacey and Paul created their own magnificent love affair and together developed their proven eight step Relationship Transformation System™ for helping people to create their own unshakable love and unleashed passion!

Stacey began in personal development over 17 years ago.  She is trained and certified as a Marriage Educator, Divorce Preventionist, Strategic Interventionist and Coach by Tony Robbins and Cloe Madanes of the Robbins Madanes Center for Strategic Intervention.  Stacey and Paul are consistently sought after to help people all around the world repair and transform their intimate relationships.  They are known for achieving astounding and rapid results!  Stacey and Paul live and love happily together in Bucks County PA with their two small children!

You can find out more about Stacey and her work at loveandpassioncoach.com.

Click here to listen to our interview. 

Remember to leave me a comment about what you have turned around.

With love and light,

 

 

 

P.S. If you would like to talk with me about mediation and how it might help in your particular situation, call me (202) 587-2772 or email candace@candacesmyth.com.  I provide in-person (DC & MD) mediation sessions and skype sessions for those outside of the metro DC area.  Learn more about them here.

P.S.S. And, if you are looking for a divorce support group.  I am starting both a lunchtime and evening group June 20.  If you live in the Washington, DC area, call or email me to get on the list.  202.587-2772 or candace@candacesmyth.com.

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